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Title: Regarding the "Ideal House holder life"...article.

User: Swami Gaurangapada Date: 2006-11-22 18:28:00


Nityananda! Gauranga! Hare Krishna! The article is written by His Divine Grace Seventh Goswami Shrila Saccidananda Bhaktivinoda Thakura.††



I feel this is not the criteria that one has developed detachment.

Answer by Swami Gaurangapada:


Yes, that is why one needs a Guru to check with him about the level of one's advancement and detachment.



One may be having a difficult time to maintain family, and even for that reason also his devotional service may be hampered.

Answer by Swami Gaurangapada:


That is not a sufficient justification to shirk the responsibility of maintaining one's family members. Everyone knows that household is a big spiritual as well as material responsibility to the spouse, children, parents etc. and if one feels that this responsibility would hamper one's bhakti, then one should have thought about it before accepting the grihastha ashram. Once one accepts it, one is spiritually bound to fulfill it even though it may prove difficult.



And if one has really become detached, still he need not feel home as unfavourable, as exhibited by many associates of Gauranga Mahaprabhu.

Answer by Swami Gaurangapada:


True. Real detachment is not dependant on which ashram you are situated. In some cases a sincere householder devotee can be more detached than a sannyasi.



Since this is Kali-yuga, if a householder gives up his home on this pretext that he has become detached, without providing proper maintenance for his family members, the family members will fall in trouble. May be he is trying to escape from family due to problems.

Answer by Swami Gaurangapada:


Again true. If in the same of spiritual life, a devotee tries to escape from the responsibilites of the grihastha ashram, then it is escapism.




May be that is the reason I feel acaryas have recommended that grhasthas may remain in family life and continue to act for the spiritual-welfare of family members first, before acting for the spiritual-welfare of the world. Only when one is sufficiently purified, and at the proper time & age should give up family life on superior order of guru or Krishna for the purpose of preaching.

Answer by Swami Gaurangapada:


That is entirely not correct. Preaching the Holy Names does not depend on whether one is married or sannyasi. One can simultaneously discharge one's spiritual and material responsibilities in the grihastha ashram and at the same time one can practice and preach the Holy Names as per one's capacity. This is called kushala karmanam is Shrimad Bhagavatam. In fact in some cases, grihastha devotees are even in a better position to preach the Holy Names than the devotees in the renounced order as they can meet with and communicate with so many new people among their aquaintances even if they are in a very contaminated position in life. That is why Lord Gauranga Mahaprabhu stressed to us to remain sthaane sthitah..steadily situated in our situation in life while practicing and preaching the chanting of the Holy Names instead of trying to radically change our external situation when we take up spiritual life.


Though one does need a certain level of purity to preach the Holy Names but still preaching of the Holy Names also has the power to instill that purity in the heart of the preacher devotee if he or she is sincere. So one does not have to wait till the time one becomes 100% pure to spread the chanting of the Holy Names of Nityananda, Gauranga and Hare Krishna.