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Practical Tips To Mind Control
Compiled By Radheshyam Das M. Tech. (IIT)
Director, BACE Pune.
" The search for happiness is the eternal quest for every living entity. In the modern, «n* the propaganda throughout the world s to work very hard to earn ones l.ve hood to accumulate more and more wealth to in c ease one's name and fame and thus become happy Consequently, everyone is caught up in an environment of cut-throat competition In such a situation, every avenue to stay alive ^ get ahead in life is thoroughly exploited-Mind control plays a decisive role in det-minine the performance and shaping the future of a person and it has therefore become a buzzword in professional circles nowadays.
No One Can Make Or Mar Your Career; So DON'T BLAME OTHERS
We should also know that no one can make or mar our career. Sometimes we imagine, " A has blocked my promotion." or " B has ruined my business by competing in the same field." and so on. And due to such imaginary conceptions, we feel envy and animosity towards others. But actually our career and life is shaped by our previous karma; others cannot influence it.
A typical example of one nourishing such needless envy and enmity is Duryodhana. Right from the time the Pandavas came to Hastinapura as small children, Duryodhana was envious of them. He was afraid that they might take over the kingdom. So. to destroy them, he hatched various demoniac schemes such as feeding Bhima a poisonous cake, gifting the Pandavas a palace made of inflammable shellac and then arranging to have it set on fire so that they would burn to death and so on. But by none of these tricks could he succeed in killing them. Later during the svayamvara of Draupadi, he became mad with lust on seeing her exquisite beauty, but he was crestfallen when he could not win her hand. And when the Pandavas won the hand of Draupadi, his envy increased manifold.
When he realized that the Pandavas had become very powerful and wealthy due to their alliance with Drupada, the father of Draupadi and the king of Panchal, he feared that they might attack and defeat him. So he decided to give them half of the kingdom, but once again, due to his envious nature, he tried to cheat them by offering them the barren part of the Kuru kingdom called Khandavaprastha.But, by the mercy of Lord Krishna, that desolate land was miraculously transformed, in no time, into the great city Indraprastha. Indraprastha was a magnificent and opulent city filled with learned brahmanas, chivalrous kshatriyas, well-to-do vaishyas and faithful shudras. All the subjects were living a very happy God-centered life in accordance with the Vedic scriptures. All the cows, women, old men, children and brahmanas were properly protected. The mellifluous chanting of auspicious Vedic mantras could be heard everywhere in the city. And Mayadanava constructed the Mayasabha, a gorgeous mansion akin to a heavenly abode, for the Pandavas. When Duryodhana heard about the opulence of the Pandavas, he just could not stand it. In fact the very thought that was now the emperor of the world caused him indescribable agony. He felt that that position was his exclusive birthright and that the Pandavas had unlawfully usurped his position.
At that time, Maharaj decided to conduct the Rajasuya yajna to establish the supremacy of Lord Krishna. He invited all the kings and sages from all over the universe for the yajna. At the time of the yajna, he allocated various services to his relatives and close friends. He requested Bhishma and Drona to oversee the organization of the sacrifice, Dushasana to take care of distribution of food to all the guests, Ashvatthama to attend to the brahmanas and Duryodhana to receive all the gifts. Lord Krishna took the humble role of washing the feet of all the sages and brahmanas arriving for the Rajasuya yajna. Seeing the hundreds and thousands of priceless gifts that came for Yudhishtir, Duryodhana's heart burnt with envy. And when he saw the incomparable opulence of the famed palace of the Pandavas, the Mayasabha, he could no longer control his jealousy. He sniffed and huffed and frowned harshly at the innocent servants who were cheerfully passing by within the place. He was in a state of total misery and despondency. On his way back to Hastinapura, Duryodhana told his uncle, Shakuni, "It is impossible for me to see the prosperity of the Pandavas. What man who possesses any self-respect can bear to see his enemies prosper more than him? How can I ever equal the power and the opulence of the Pandavas? All my efforts to do so have been frustrated. And my attempts to destroy the Pandavas have also met with total failure. On the contrary, they are flourishing like lotuses in a pond. Therefore I cannot live any longer. 1 will enter into fire or I will swallow poison and thus end my life. Please inform my father Dhritarashtra about the terrible anguish I am in. " And while he was speaking, the fire of envy in his heart started burning more and more and he became even more fearful that the Pandavas would vanquish him.
When Dhritarashtra came to know about the devilish mentality of Duryodhana, he tried to pacify him, "My dear son, whatever you may want for your enjoyment is already at your disposal. Our opulence is no less than that of the gods in heaven. We have immense wealth, magnificent mansions, the best of'clothes, the finest food and beautiful women. All these are just waiting to give you pleasure. What reason is therefor you to become depressed?" Duryodhana sullenly muttered, "Don't you know that got thousands of invaluable gifts in the Rajsuya yajna?"
Dhritarashtra suggested, " You can also perform a similar sacrifice and you will also get those gifts." But Duryodhana knew that he would not get even one tenth of the gifts that Yudhishthir got.
Therefore the evil-minded Duryodhana, along with the diabolical Shakuni, decided to devise some devious way, by which the Pandavas could be destroyed. Duryodhana knew that he could not challenge the Pandavas in a battle; they would easily defeat him. So he decided to invite the Pandavas to a gambling match so that they could be cheated of their kingdom and be exiled into the forest. Even during the exile of the Pandavas, Duryodhana, though the emperor of the entire world, was constantly in anxiety about the possibility of the return of the Pandavas in the future; he was never at peace. On the other hand, the Pandavas, who were great devotees of Krishna, being nonenvious, lived peacefully though they were in utter poverty in the forest.
In a similar way, in the present times of cutthroat competition, most people live totally insecure lives, being torn apart by immeasurable anxieties, "This person is trying to pull me down", "It is only because of that person that I cannot progress in my life", "That person is growing bigger than me, how can I cut him down?" Such people grit their teeth, bite their lips, frown, grumble, brood and, riding on the chariot of their mind, make elaborate plans to destroy all their so-called enemies and become supreme. But all their endeavors are repeatedly frustrated and they have no peace of mind whatsoever.
SEE The LOVING HAND of GOD BEHIND EVERYTHING And TOLERATE INCONVENIENCES
However such resentment and envy are actually a sign of cowardice, a sign of the absence of the courage to accept the reality that they cannot control the world around them. They are disturbing their peace of mind for no gains whatsoever, because nobody has the power to change the will of God. Wisdom lies in understanding that the happiness and distress destined for us at the time of our birth, as fixed according to our past karma, are inevitably going to come, no matter what we do. just as distress comes in our life uninvited, by higher arrangement, happiness will also come of its own accord. Therefore real wisdom lies in seeing the loving and well-wishing hand of God behind everything that happens in our lives. Only with such a vision can we live in peace. But if a person is jealous of others and is trying to pull them down or destroy them, then he can never be at peace. Why? Because such a person is concerned not so much with how well he has fared, but with how badly others have fared. His success lies in the failure of others. His mentality is like that of a crab, who having been trapped in a fisherman's basket along with many other crabs, is worried, not about saving his own life by jumping out of the basket, but about pulling other crabs down so that he may stay at a higher level than them within the basket. What an utterly foolish mentality!
Therefore an intelligent person, a devotee of God, does not measure his success by such a meaningless standard - the failure of others. He understands that real success in life is in pleasing God because only by the mercy of God can all problems be solved, once and for all. And knowing that everything happens by the will of God, he lives by the wise saying: what cannot be cured has to be endured.
This same truth is taught by Lord Krishna in the Bhagavad-gita (2.14)
matra sparsas tu kaunteya sitosna sukba duhkha dah
agamapayino 'nityas tarns titikisasva bharata
Krishna says, "O son of Kunti, the nonper-manent appearance of happiness and distress, and their disappearance in due course, are like the appearance and disappearance of winter and summer seasons. They arise from sense perception, O scion of Bharata, and one must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed."
For example, the duty of a housewife is to cook. In the summer season, though the kitchen may be very hot, she cannot say, " I will cook only in the winter. In summer, the kitchen is very hot. So I cannot cook." Even though the kitchen may be hot, she has to just tolerate the heat and go on with her duty of cooking.
In the same way, we have to know that there are many things in life, which are beyond our control. If a person thinks, "I can control everything in every situation throughout my life", the mind of such a person will be literally torn to pieces. An intelligent person knows that God is the Supreme Controller and that He is controlling everything that is happening throughout the world as well as in his own life. Such a person, who sees with the eyes of knowledge, can understand that he is bound from head to toe by the laws of nature. When we ourselves are so completely controlled,
how then can we expect to control every situation, or for that matter, any situation? Therefore though there may be hundreds of inconveniences, annoyances and irritations from the moment we wake up every morning to the moment we sleep at night (and even when we are asleep), we have to understand that they are not within our power to change. So we should learn to tolerate them without being disturbed.
GIVE UP The CRAVING For RECOGNITION
Craving for worldly glory and recognition is the surest way to physical and mental restlessness. The whole world is running madly after name, fame and recognition. But why do we want recognition? Have we ever asked ourselves this question? We want name, fame and recognition so that people may understand our greatness. Everyone in this world considers himself to be a very great person and so he wants people to respect him. Even those, who don't have any extraordinary ability or talent by which they can become famous, try to obtain fame by connecting them-selves with those who are famous. That is why people want to have their photograph taken with a popular film star or cricketer; so that they can show it to others and make an unspoken statement, "Just see! I am putting my hands on the shoulder of this famous cricketer. Just see it! And understand my greatness!" Thus everyone wants to achieve recognition in some way or the other.
But in complete contrast, Lord Chaitanya Mahaprabhu prays:
na dhanam na janam na sundarim kavitam va jagadisha kamaye
mama janmani janmani isvare bhavatad bhaktir ahaituki tvayi
"O almighty Lord, I have no desire to accumulate wealth, nor do I desire beautiful women, nor do I want any number of followers. I only want your causeless devotional service birth after birth." (Shikshashtakam 4) The first reaction of most people on hearing this prayer is shock and utter disbelief. Wealth, women and followers are what people hanker and toil tirelessly for throughout their lives. But to the degree a person is hankering for recognition from worldly people, to that degree his mind will be torn to pieces. Why? Because the harsh unpalatable truth is that no one in the world respects you, has any concern for you or is even interested in you; their respect, concern and interest are all for what you possess. Countless examples can be given to substantiate this truth:
A prostitute will smile at a man, speak sweetly with him and provide him with all enjoyment; due to her behavior, the man may naturally start thinking, "O she's attracted to me. I am so handsome!" But she is not the least interested in him; the moment his pocket is empty, she will disappear.
When a tree is full of fruits, multitudes of birds flock to the tree. The tree may think, "All these birds are coming to me. I am such an important entity." But the moment the fruits get over, not a single bird even glances at the tree.
• When many charming deer are grazing in a forest, the forest may think, "I must be so wonderful that even these beautiful deer are coming to me." But when there is no green grass in the forest, the deer will not stay there even for a moment.
Similarly, it appears that all the people, who surround you, are interested in you and that they are all impressed by your greatness. But when you grow old and are no longer beautiful or when you lose the opulence that you have today, none of these people will come near you; they will simply disappear. Films stars and cricketers have thousands of fans in their youth and they feel on top of the world, receiving the adulation of their fans. But when they grow old, none of their fans pays even the slightest attention to them, leave alone respecting or adulating them. And for one who has been famous, obscurity is worse than death. For example, there was a celebrated football player and, due to his exceptional talent in maneuvering the ball with his foot, he had millions of fans all over the world literally mad after him (or so he thought). But one day he somehow broke his leg and he could no longer play football. And that was the end of all his fame; not even a single soul would come to meet him thereafter. Even if nothing like this happens to a famous person, still all his accumulated wealth, possessions,recognition etc., are going to be lost in the sands of time at the time of death. In this way we can easily understand that being mad for recognition from the people of the world is foolishness.
STRIVE To GAIN The FRIENDSHIP Of GOD; It Is THE GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT
Instead of aspiring for such ephemeral worldly recognition we should be aspiring to be recognized by God. Why? Because God is a person who loves you for what you are and not for what you have. And He loves you so much that He remains your greatest well wisher and heart-to-heart friend, even if you are not in the least interested in Him. Therefore, instead of directing our craving for recognition towards the people of this world, we should re-direct it towards the Lord and His representatives, the saintly persons.
A person can do this only when he has understood what is the greatest achievement in life. In modern times, people generally think that earning fabulous sums of money or going abroad and returning with a lot of wealth or leading a very happy family life or having hundreds and thousands of possessions is the greatest achievement in life. But history shows that anybody who thought like this had to suffer terribly in the end. The inevitable time factor defeats all such hedonistic plans for enjoyment and reduces to nothing all one's accomplishments exactly like the roaring waves of a ocean devastating a sand castle built by a child. This is the harsh reality of the material world. That is why Sri Chaitanya Mahaprabhu says, "I don't aspire for wealth, women or follow-, ers", but rather He prays to the Lord, "Please give me pure love for you." As the scriptures proclaim, prema pumartho mahan "The greatest achievement in all of creation is to achieve pure love of God." Why? Because the only true need of each one of us is happiness. And happiness comes only when we truly love and are truly loved. And the only person worthy of reposing love in is God, because He alone can be the eternal object of our love; all other so-called loving relationships are inevitably severed by the sharp sword of time. We can achieve happiness and peace of mind automatically if we re-awaken our dormant love of God. And this love can be awakened simply by serving and remembering God in whatever we do and by chanting His Holy Names. But instead of trying to re-establish our relationship with God, if we get entangled in the rat race for recognition, we will be doomed to disappointment and frustration. While we are alive, we will never get any peace of mind and, at the time of death, we will realize that we have been cheated because all the things, which we gave our entire lives to obtain, will be forcibly taken away.
Don't INCREASE YOUR WANTS AND FEEL Like a BEGGAR; RATHER DECREASE YOUR WANTS And FEEL Like a KING
People ask for peace of mind but they want to very carefully preserve their material greed. But the truth is peace of mind and material greed are incompatibles. You have to make your choice.
It is wisely said, 'God has provided for everyone's need, but not for everyone's greed.' An angry man can be pacified when he gives vent to his anger by chastising someone; a thirsty man can be satisfied by having some water; a hungry man can be satisfied by having some food. But a greedy man can never be satisfied by anything, no matter how much he accumulates. So the only way to deal with greed is to give up the greedy mentality.
People go on increasing their facilities more and more, thinking that they are becoming bigger and bigger controllers. But, by increasing their facilities, they end up becoming slaves of those facilities. Just imagine a modern man surrounded on all sides by modern gadgets. He has a grinder; so he has no need to use his hand. He has a mobile phone; so he doesn't have to move from his bed to attend to phone calls. He has a remote control; so he doesn't have to get up from his bed for switching on the television. Nowadays there are remote switches even for fans and lights and one can switch them on from one's bed. In this way man has increased his luxuries and facilities and he thinks, "The control for the whole world is at my finger tips. Just by a slight movement of my fingers, I can control everything around me."
But, in the process, he becomes utterly dependent on these gadgets. If even one of them doesn't work properly, he becomes miserable. And what is the ultimate consequence of such needless indulgence? Those who use such gadgets throughout their lives get a variety of bodily maladies in their old age. And when they go to a doctor, he tells them, "You have not done any exercise throughout your life. So now you have to move your hand up and down as if you were drawing water from a well." Or You have to rotate your hand working on a grinder " Or "You have every ' morning for walking or jogging."
vvnat an irony! By the arrangement of nature, man has to do all these things and, if he does them, he will never get rheumatic pain or any such sickness. But considering such basic bodily activities to be troublesome, he works hard to earn money to get gadgets to avoid doing these things. But on getting such gadgets, he suffers because he becomes utterly dependent on them. And, in the end, he gets health problems and is forced to do the very things, which he originally wanted to avoid! But despite the foolishness of it all, unfortunately people today increase their needs more and more and work hard like donkeys to accumulate more wealth for procuring these facilities. But it only entraps them further. For example, in the modern times, there is the credit card system. A person can take any gadget he wants just by showing his credit card. Tempted by the desire to have the best facilities in his house, he takes many expensive gadgets. But later he finds out that he has to work like a donkey for another ten or twenty years just to pay the installments for what he purchased using his credit card.
So in this way people think that they are getting more and more facilities and that they are enjoying but actually they are only increasing their suffering. The material nature created by the Lord, Maya, is so powerful that she thoroughly cheats those who try to exploit her resources without using them in the service of God, as is illustrated by the following story.
Once upon a time a sadhu was climbing a mountain. Finding the climb laborious, he thought how nice it would be if he could climb the mountain on horseback. He therefore started singing, "Hey Rama ghodi dila de, hey Rama, ghodi dila de". "O Lord Rama please give me a horse. " And lo and behold! While he was praying like this, a passerby came and, seeing a sadhu struggling to climb the mountain, donated a horse. The sadhu was very happy that the Lord had fulfilled his desire immediately. He promptly mounted the horse and continued climbing up the mountain. After some time, all of a sudden, the horse stopped and, despite repeated proddings, would not budge even an inch. When he got down to see what was wrong, he noticed that the horse was actually a mare. She had been pregnant and had just given birth to a baby horse. And due to her natural maternal affection for her offspring, she was not ready to leave it.
Perplexed, the sadhu wondered how he could make the horse move. Suddenly an idea struck him and he picked up the baby horse and started walking. Being attached to her offspring, the mare quietly followed him. The sadhu was very pleased with himself, "Just see how clever I am! I have tricked the horse into walking." But after just a few steps he started panting due to the weight of the foal. He then started thinking, "Hey! Wait a minute! I wanted a horse to carry me, but I have ended up carrying a horse! I was much better off earlier; at least J did not have any burden to carry. "
In this way we sometimes increase our facilities in order to enjoy life but later we see that those very facilities become sources of trouble; we become slaves of those facilities.